Planning a Scene

I’d like to start with a very rare apology, I’ve been too ill to do anything lately, including sit at my computer. With that said, let’s talk about planning a scene.

Valentines Day is almost upon us and maybe you want to have some play time with your partner. If you don’t get as much time as you’d like for regular scenes then planning ahead can be great because you both know what you want to get out of it and you’ll actually get it. But there’s always a risk of over planning, so here’s my tips to get the most out of your play time.

I do recommend planning together, talk about it (the anticipation is all part of the fun after all.) Talk, joke, make notes if that’s your thing.

First off, what are you into right now? If you’re like me and love shaking things up regularly then this is the time to put forward something new in your play. Have a couple of things you really want to do, try not to make that list more than three things for a couple of hours or you risk rushing through everything and not enjoying the experience. Know the time you are playing with and plan around that.

Now you know what you want to be doing you can play around with the ideas of what order you might want to do things or decide what you’re going to pick off a list of things to do. Some elements naturally flow into each other and others are more clashing so a rough idea of the order is a great way to help things flow.

Don’t be scared to go a little off script, I’ve had nights in the past that were initially going to go one way but the mood has taken us another direction and that’s just fine. It’s all part of the fun and if you’ve been with your partner for a while then you really end up feeding off of each others energy and a plan should just be an outline, don’t let it get in the way of your enjoyment.

Know the toys you want to use and know where they are. There is nothing more frustrating than having a toy you want to use and it is nowhere to be found and everything stops for five minutes while you find it. Or don’t and have it at the back of your mind. Because I’ve been there and it’s not fun! Have your toys clean and to hand and you’re all ready to have fun.

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