BDSM and Mental Healing

BDSM is a strange thing, it’s fun, it’s sexy and some people use it for emotional healing. But the last one can come with it’s risks. Discovering my dominant side 12 years ago made a huge difference outside of my kink life. I don’t have the happiest of histories, and it left me a a mousy, quiet and unhappy person. I thought I was a submissive for a while. But it just wasn’t me. But then I gave Domming a go and I’ve never looked back.

Over time I realised that I could apply parts of my kink self into my day to day life. It helped give me my voice and strength again that I thought I had lost. BDSM helped heal something in me. It was a slow journey, one that also involved therapy and help and support from my loved ones. But one day things just began to fall into place and I don’t think that would have happened without BDSM. 
There are people who use it to heal all manner of problems mentally. But this path can be a risky one. Things can go wrong, you can open up old wounds you thought were healed or you might not even have realised were there. 
And of course, there are those who get into BDSM for exactly this reason, it’s just a coping mechanism and that’s a path that will never lead anywhere good. Some use it as just another way of self harming and that is neither safe, sane or consensual. It opens up the risk of being abused (on either side) and will ultimately only cause more harm. I’ve analysed why I do what I do, and where I’m going with it regularly and it has always come down to one thing, I do this because I love it. The healing that happened within it was never something I expected and a wonderful bonus. 
It’s always wise to look at why you do the things you do, especially things those that can cause strong emotional highs and lows. And in my mind this goes double if you are playing with someone with mental health issues or if it is you yourself with them. There are people I have refused to play with and still hold to that, because of their mental health. It’s always important to put fun aside and make sure what you are doing is actually the right thing by both of you. The mental well being of everyone involved is always the most important thing to me. 
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