• Personal

    Kinks to Try

    While I have done a lot there are always new things out there to try, here are a few things I would like to give a go. Erotic Hypnosis I’ve got no experience but back in the Tumblr days I followed a few erotic hypnosis blogs and it looked like a lot of fun so I really want to give it a go. I love power exchange so this seems like a great thing to have a go at. Clit Pumping, I’ve wanted to give this a go for years, I love body modification in pretty much all its forms, even temporary ones. And I’m also really into big, swollen…

  • Personal

    2020 Goals

    With the year about to wrap up I thought I would share with you all my goals for the year ahead. Building the blog and social media. I’ve been working on this through the year, but with the Twitter restart I have a lot of work to do there and I need to get into more of a habit with using Instagram. Getting back to work. This has been on the cards for a little while now but there keeps being set backs, but this is the year that it happens. I’ll be selling clips and used underwear, camming and offering online domming sessions on top of the blog. More…

  • Personal

    5 Favourite Sex Bloggers

    I thought I would end the year with a few lists, today it’s my favourite sex blogger, these are all sites I visit regularly, inspire me, make me laugh and teach me something new with every visit. Girl on the Net I’ve been following Girl on the Net for many years, her site is a treasure trove of information, rants and hot stories. She also gets fantastic guest bloggers too that talk about a huge range of stuff. It has made me laugh, made me wet and entertained me many an afternoon. Girly Juice I started reading Kate Sloane’s blog earlier this year and I’ve really been enjoying it and…

  • Memes

    Playing in Public

    I’ve touched on this subject in the past when I talked about exhibitionism, but it’s great to be revisiting it with more of a focus on public play itself. It took me years to feel comfortable to play at fetish events. In fact for the first two years my then partner could only get me out once a month and I would be on the verge of being sick from nerves the whole way there. I went because he enjoyed it, but I hated it. In my next relationship I started feeling more confidant and safe with public play, we talked in depth about my fears and started slowly. He…

  • BDSM

    Toy Free Play

    When it comes to BDSM it can sometimes feel like it’s about who has the best toys or their own play space. But toys are expensive, and if you’re new or on a tight budget, a reality for many of us, a packed toy box is not always a possibility. But there’s a lot you can still do without toys. Humiliation You don’t need anything but an imagination to enjoy this, but do remember to discuss limits and what is going too far beforehand as this can go wrong and can do a lot of emotional damage very easily. If you’re interested in public humiliation just remember, the strangers around…

  • BDSM

    How to Behave at a Munch

    The new year is coming and maybe you’re thinking of getting involved with your local BDSM community as your new years resolution. Today I’m going to give you a few bits of advice before you go to your first ever munch so you have the best possible time you can have. Do your research Get yourself onto FetLife and see what is in your local area, if you’re lucky enough to live in a city there are probably plenty to choose from. If you live in or around London, England there is a website just dedicated to London events. Go check it out here. There are some that are just…

  • BDSM

    Lifestyle Not Fuckstyle

    OK, today I’m going to put my switch hat on again (it’s sparkly in case you’re wondering) and follow up my last post and talk about some realities of lifestyle BDSM. Maybe you’ve just finished reading 50 Shades of Grey (and just this once I will not judge you too harshly) or it’s something you’ve always wanted to do and finally you are ready to take the plunge. I’ve been living the lifestyle for years and here’s the thing, the reality is that they are a lot of hard work. Hell, relationships are a lot of hard work but adding a whole other element on top of it and there’s…

  • BDSM

    Giving and Taking Control

    I have an interesting relationship with control, I crave both giving and taking it, and once I dominate someone I can never go back to submitting to them again. Here’s how I make it all work in my life. As you’ll know if you’ve visited the blog before, I am going back to work in February, and one of the things I will be doing is online domination. It’s here that I get to enjoy my taking of control. I love how powerful it makes me feel. Becoming dominant and taking charge has changed my life, in finding my Mistress side I found my voice again after years of abuse.…

  • BDSM

    D/s Over the Holidays

    The holiday season is well and truly upon us here in the UK, with a big focus on family it can be hard to keep up the rules of a power exchange relationship, but it’s not impossible. So lets look at some ideas to make it work! Physical Cues A touch to the leg, a hand squeeze, a stroke of the finger, all subtle shows of affection that can be transformed into small cues to keep rules in tact without having to utter a word or give anything away. There are countless ways to work around asking and giving permission, just work out the ones that are best for your…

  • Memes

    KOTW – Period Sex

    I have no problem with period sex, it doesn’t do anything for me but it certainly won’t put me off. I’ve met people who are really into it, others that have been hugely put off by it. The only reason I don’t do it at the moment is because I keep forgetting to get a towel we don’t mind getting covered in blood. That’s really the only problem I have with period sex, the mess. I’m not bothered by the blood itself, it’s the getting it out of whatever it gets on that irritates me. Nothing a cheap towel won’t fix, a couple of washed out blood stains never hurt…