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    Taking Back Consent

    We talk a lot about giving consent to things, but here’s the thing, you can also change your mind and take it back. If you don’t like the way a scene or situation is going, no matter who it is, you can take consent back. Many years ago I was in a relationship with someone that I changed my mind on a few of the directions our relationship was going in, I didn’t quite have the trust that I had months before and I needed to take back my consent for a few things. And they made me feel bad about it, they tried to guilt me into changing my…

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    30 Days of Kink – Day 9

    Post a Kink Related Song or Music Video You Enjoy Before we get into the music video I’m so sorry I haven’t posted in three weeks, I was struck down with flu which then turned into sinusitis and have been hidden under a blanket in the dark until yesterday. But now I am finally able to look at a screen without a migraine and I’ve returned. I will also be moving 30 Days of Kink to once a week so I can continue to do other posts as usual instead of doing two posts a day on the days I post. I was introduced to this song many years ago…

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    30 Days of Kink – Day 7

    What’s Your Favourite Toy? This is a pretty tough one for me, I have so many different toys and I love them for such different reasons. But I decided to settle for a much loved butt plug from Kinky Pleasures. First off, as someone who collects My Little Pony toys I had to have this in my collection. I also love being able to support a small company actually owned by kinky people. But importantly, it’s a gorgeous plug to use. It’s waves and bumps feel so good when it’s being inserted or removed. As someone who loves a good heavy toy I adore the weight too. They don’t do…

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    30 Days of Kink – Day 6

    Describe Your Weirdest/Most Interesting Sexual Fantasy This isn’t weird as such, but it is weird for me as it’s a non-monogamous fantasy and I am very much monogamous, but I do have a cuckolding fantasy. It’s not something I want to actually do but I do find the idea hot. The idea of tying my partner up, having him get the guy hard and me wet with his mouth and watching as the other guy fucks me, unable to join in or touch himself as I come over and over on another guys cock. Eventually when we are finished he has to lick the cum from me and clean the…

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    30 Days of Kink – Day 5

    What Was Your First Kinky Sexual Experience? My first kinky sexual experience was with a submissive guy, and at the time I thought I was submissive myself. Yet I ended up the dominant one in this situation. It was a very long time ago and I don’t remember all of the details as I had also been drinking that night. My first submissive experience was a few months later with someone I met online. I threw myself into the deep end and wanted to try just about everything I could at once. It was very much focused on power exchange and pain. I don’t think about it very often as…

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    Leaving Marks

    I love leaving marks on my partner, he wears them like a badge of honour. They’re a sign of really good sex. Marking me isn’t really a part of our dynamic, and it’s something I’ve been picky about in the past. I wouldn’t say marks are a fetish of mine, but I love the acts that result in them. I don’t talk about my relationship all that often but I have said before that abrasion play is one of our favourite things and it’s obviously one that does leave marks. Albeit temporary. Dragging my nails into my partners skin as I orgasm is always a part of our fucking, it’s…

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    30 Days of Kink- Day 4

    Any early experiences that, in retrospect, hint at your kinks? Considering I have been actively kinky almost my entire adult life and known I’ve been kinky for as long as I’ve been sexually active there are probably quite a few experiences. I was 16 when the film Secretary came out and when I eventually managed to see it I did find it a turn on. Not the greatest film ever made by a long shot but I did enjoy it at the time. And it’s one I still keep meaning to watch it with my partner. I feel a bit weird talking about stuff that looking back made me realise…

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    30 Days of Kink – Day 3

    How Did You Discover You Were Kinky? My earliest fantasies were pretty kinky, and then like a lot of people my age discovered more kinks through porn. I would have gotten into BDSM earlier than I did but I was in a vanilla relationship with someone that wanted me to not be kinky and tried to scare me out of that life. They were not a great person but that was a very long time ago and I have no desire to dwell on it. At the end of 2006 I was single and able to explore BDSM, and in fact my first experience was as a Domme, even though…

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    30 Days of Kink – Day 2

    List Your Kinks This is kind of tough, my kinks tend to change a lot, as I mentioned in my last post and I’ve probably forgotten a few and others I may even fall out of love with over time. I don’t need these kinks to be happy and horny but I do love them all. Bondage Power exchange Anal Pegging Humiliation Wax play Abrasion play Clothes pegs Spanking/caning Chastity Orgasm control Exhibitionism Latex Dollification Financial domination Bimbofication I nearly didn’t put dollification on the list as while it’s a very old kink for me (I discovered it when I was 18) but have barely touched on it in my…