Happy new year to all my lovely followers both old and new. I thought I would start the new year with the 30 Days of Kink meme that I found through Molly’s Daily Kiss.
Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self.
I’ve been a switch since I was 20 although I’ve had a go at just being dominant and just being submissive. I really can’t do just one, I get bored and unhappy. I need to be able to do a little bit of everything to keep me happy. I have an excellent balance in my life now with a submissive private life and a dominant work life. I actually kind of struggle with switching within a relationship, once I’ve dominated someone I struggle to ever be able to submit to them again.
The parts of BDSM I find interesting has evolved a lot over the past 14 years, some things have taken a back seat in my life whereas others have become more a part of my kinky life. I’ve become more interested in rope bondage whereas I often just been interested in physically pinning or being pinned down.
I was much more into dominance and power exchange a few years ago than I am now. These days there is very little of it in my sex life and none outside of it. Sometimes I miss it, but it’s not something I see coming back into my life any time soon. But I find these things come in waves and phases with me so who knows what the future holds for me.
Sadism and masochism are something I’ve always needed in my sex life, sadism usually more so than masochism as my pain tolerance has always greatly varied. However I’ve always enjoyed giving some consensual pain to a cute person. Especially if it’s a good caning or face slapping.
Compared to ten years ago BDSM is now something that is now just in the bedroom and will completely become my work life. It’s a big part of who I am and I know I cannot live without it, I did try for about a year and I was deeply unhappy. I’m hoping to get more opportunities to try new things and have a little more BDSM in my life this year.