How Did You Discover You Were Kinky?
My earliest fantasies were pretty kinky, and then like a lot of people my age discovered more kinks through porn. I would have gotten into BDSM earlier than I did but I was in a vanilla relationship with someone that wanted me to not be kinky and tried to scare me out of that life. They were not a great person but that was a very long time ago and I have no desire to dwell on it.
At the end of 2006 I was single and able to explore BDSM, and in fact my first experience was as a Domme, even though I was more interested in submission at the time. But it was a lot of fun, and the first real step that I took on my journey. But that was nothing serious so I started looking to explore. I did meet someone online and found out after being with them for a few months that they also had an online submissive. So it wasn’t exactly the best start but in the summer of 2007 I met a switch at my first club night, Hades.
I was with the switch for two years and in my time with them I started properly switching and got the chance to explore a lot of kinks. I was collared to them, the only time in my life I would consider myself owned. But sadly we wanted different things from a long term relationship and they were more interested in non-monogamy than I was. I really have learnt that it’s hard to be monogamous and in BDSM. Hard but not impossible,
I still can’t quite believe that it’s been 14 years since I took the plunge and got out of an unhappy relationship and went with what felt right, and while I have taken the occasional break in that time but kink is a part of who I am but I’ll never be able to walk away.