What Are Your Views On the Ethics of Kink?
I know this is a subject I should think about more often, now and in the past. But I just haven’t.
I do firmly believe in ethical kink, be it safe, sane and consensual or risk aware consensual kink. I will never go into anything without knowing what I’m getting into (take note Hollywood, that is how it should be done) because, well, because I’m not a complete idiot. I don’t want to put myself in a position that could do me physical or emotional harm that I could otherwise have avoided.
I guess where I’m going is that if your kink is not ethical it isn’t kink, it’s moving, or fully into, abuse. When it comes to sex, paid for or not, porn or just kink if it isn’t ethical you are part of one huge problem that needs to be addressed.
I don’t really talk through scenes with my partner nor have I in the past, not past a vague idea of what we’re feeling into at the time. But that comes from a long time together, knowing limits well and having a lot of trust. But in a professional capacity I am going to make sure I’m giving them what they are looking for and nothing more, because that is what they consented to. Just as I have my limits and they are not to be pushed or tested.
Maybe I had more opinions on this than I thought, sometimes we surprise even ourselves. What are your thoughts on the ethics of kink? I’d love to hear your thoughts.