• Memes

    30 Days of Kink – Day 22

    What Do You Think Is Important In Keeping A BDSM Relationship Healthy? How Does It Differ From A Vanilla Relationship? I think the most important thing is the same for a vanilla or BDSM based relationship, communication. They both need a lot of open and honest talk from both sides to work long term. I’ve seen plenty of relationships, including some of my own deteriorate because of a lack of communication. If we do not talk openly and honestly about our needs and desires then they cannot be met. These are also things that change over time which is why you need to keep talking. If you cannot talk to…

  • Everything Else

    Sex and Technology

    Since so many of us are stuck indoors and unable to fuck in real life we’re having to get our kicks using Skype, phone sex and sexting. But not all of us are comfortable with it. I have a friend who wrote a brilliant song about it that I would like to if it was online. Maybe you want to but you don’t know where to begin, maybe you’re not comfortable because you might say or do the wrong thing. Well I thought now was as good a time as any to talk about it. So lets get into it. I totally get peoples discomfort about using some kind of…

  • BDSM

    Pegging

    You remember yesterday when I said my mum was the inspiration for the SPH post? Well believe it or not she’s a bit of an inspiration for this one too! Take a seat, grab your drink and snack of choice, Auntie Hazard is going to give you a little insight into my weird little life. So I was sat on the sofa at my mum’s and she came home from work, I said hello and in response I got “Do you know what pegging is?” No hello or how are you. It had somehow come up at work (how I will never know, it wasn’t that kind of business!) and…

  • BDSM

    Small Penis Humiliation

    Would you believe the inspiration for this post came from my mum? I’ve been feeling the block really bad of late and asked my mum what to write about. And she said small penises. But after a lot of small dick jokes she asked me to say she didn’t want it to come across as mean. And that is how I ended up spending time telling my mum all about small penis humiliation. This is something I very much specialise in and have done since my early days of domming. I’m a big humiliation fan, but of course it comes with its risks as one sentence wrong can destroy the…

  • BDSM,  Memes

    30 Days of Kink Day 21

    Favourite BDSM Related Book (Fiction or Non-Fiction) My favourite book is probably Screw The Roses Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Molly Devon and Phillip Miller. It’s been around for a long time and it’s still the one I hear recommended and I recommend myself. In fact I brought a copy for my partner for Valentines Day last year. It’s full of great advice and still manages to be a fun read. Sure there are one or two rather outdated things in there given it was written in that dark time before the internet and everything was in black and white. (I’m kidding about…

  • Work

    I Love Lace

    Lace is hugely underrated, it covers yet hides absolutely nothing at the same time. It obscures at best, but really that’s it. And there’s nothing better in this world than spiderweb lace. Just a quick aside, I love spiders anyway but spiderweb patterns and lace just belong together. It feels gothic and sexy all at once. Hell, if I’m rocking the goth look I feel sexy anyway but that just makes an outfit perfect. Sadly my life is lacking in spiderweb lace at the moment though. Lace looks gorgeous on other people too, I have yet to find the person anywhere on the gender spectrum that does not look damn…

  • Everything Else

    High End Fuckery

    Just a quick warning, there will be mentions of transphobia in this post. Well, hasn’t this been an eventful week in the blogging community? I was going to write this yesterday but I needed just that little bit more time between recent events and actually writing about them. And considering that more came out since the initial fallout I’m glad I gave it an extra day. For those that aren’t in the loop there has been some serious transphobia in the blogging community, it’s just a small handful of people and they have been called out on this post by Mx Nillian which goes into lots of detail but I…

  • BDSM,  Memes

    30 Days of Kink Day 20

    Talk About Something Within Kink/BDSM You’re Curious About/Don’t Understand Brace yourselves because we’re talking about dollification again. (It’s going to need it’s on category at this rate.) Because I am still curious about it, and once the apocalypse is over I am determined to have some doll transformation fun. If you’ve had a kink for more than five years and not given it a go you should really be looking at the reason why. If you’ve had it for more than fifteen then it’s time to just fucking do it because you’re not getting any younger. Since this is the year I’ve gone public with my kink this should also…

  • BDSM

    Monsters In My Bed

    I’ve had a lot of very passionate relationships. They’ve spanned years, we’ve bared our souls to each other. They’ve also been with entirely fictional characters. My longest running romance is with The Phantom of the Opera, he’s changed a lot over the years and these days looks and sounds a lot more like my partner (who on our first Halloween together dressed up as him for me, yes he is very much a keeper). Having crushes on monsters is not uncommon, yes I know technically Erik (we’re on first name terms and everything) is not a monster but he does get classed as one of the Universal Horror monsters so…

  • Personal

    Love in the Time of Corona

    Today is my second anniversary, I am over in my part of London and he is in his. What is usually only an hour or so long journey feels like it could be hundreds of miles away in this moment. My darling, I miss you so much that it hurts my soul. All the plans that we had for this day being put on hold and seemingly no end in sight makes this day, which should be so happy the hardest one since being kept apart from you. The only positive I can take is that when this is over we will have saved money to have a truly amazing…