• Review

    Guest Post – OffBeat Review

    My partner is back for a guest review, this time it’s the OffBeat Godemiche in UV red. Before starting this review I should point out that I have phimosis; a minor condition in which the foreskin is too tight to be pulled back over the head of the penis. Over my life it has made wanking and sex in general somewhat awkward as the pulling of my foreskin can result in a stinging pain. This also means that I have a restricted sense of pleasure during all forms of sex.   I have just tried wanking with the ‘Off-Beat’ silicone masturbator. I used the 2 inch version, and once aroused, I…

  • Memes

    30 Days of Kink Day 26

    What Are Your Opinions on Online BDSM Play? I’m all for it. Especially right now when we all have to stay at a distance from each other and it’s for many the only kind of play they can get right now. It’s also a safe way to explore if you’re new to BDSM, although you should still be careful with who you are playing with even if you’re just keeping it online. Right now professional dominants and submissives are having to move their work to strictly online to keep them and their clients safe, and then of course there are those who’s work is strictly online anyway. Being done over…

  • Personal

    A Socially Distanced Date

    Here in the UK the lock down has lifted a little, you can now meet up with someone in a public place as long as you keep your distance. So we had our first ever socially distanced date. Which I thought might be called off because of course that would be the day it rained as soon as I left my flat! I finally made an effort to dress up, got my boots on and met my partner somewhere in the middle. We found a quite and as private as we are going to get in London patch of grass and enjoyed some sunshine together. It felt so good to…

  • Personal

    A Tale Of My Partner

    My partner says I should talk about him, so here is a little tale about him, how much more body confidant he has become and how much I love him. For Valentines Day last year I brought him a Clone A Willy kit, because quite frankly his cock is the perfect fit for me and I wanted a spare for when he isn’t around. Then things happened, as they so often do and thoughts of it getting done sort of fell by the wayside. Two months later it was our anniversary and the day before he had a gig and a brand new set that he refused to talk about.…

  • Memes,  Personal

    30 Days of Kink Day 25

    How Open Are You About Your Kinks? I think just about everyone that knows me knows I’m kinky. Hell my mum knows I’m kinky and so do my partners parents since they know I write about sex/BDSM and that I have worked and will be going back to working in the adult industry and what I’ll be doing. It’s the bulk of my stand up material too. But why be so open? Well it certainly makes my life a lot easier. If my friends and family all know what I do then no one can use it against me in any way. I completely own what I am and I…

  • Memes

    Kink of the Week Loving Lists

    I’m a planner girl, I’ve even talked about it in this previous post so a chance to talk about lists makes this a perfect Kink of the Week to join in with. Lists are great for kinky relationships, in my diary I have a list of kinks I love, hard limits and stuff I want to watch with my partner. There’s kinky stuff on that last one so it absolutely belongs in this post. Now I’m monogamous so I only really have to remember the loves and limits of one person, but when you have more than one partner it can be really useful to keep a track of what…

  • Memes

    30 Days of Kink – Day 24

    What Qualities Do You Look For in a Partner? Really this post should just be a photo of my partner with my pointing to him. Everything he is, I look for. But I don’t have his consent to do that so here’s a list of the things I looked for in the dark days of before him. Firstly I need monogamy, I’ve talked before about having no interest in multiple partners or open relationships. I’ve spoken about the pressure I’ve had in the past to be non-monogamous and and how emotionally damaging it became. I refuse to go back down that road. Secondly I need someone kinky, it’s a huge…

  • BDSM

    Going With the Gut

    Someone once told me “Always follow your first instinct, the second is the Devil trying to lead you astray” and she kind of had a point. While I am an atheist I don’t think it’s the Devil, not going with my first gut instinct has always come back to kick me in the tits. When it comes to BDSM we can’t always trust that someone has a great reputation on the scene, something I have talked about before. Or maybe like me you just prefer to not be a part of the scene. What can you do to stay safe? Trust your instincts. We all know about spotting red flags…

  • BDSM

    Problematic Kinks

    There are a fair few kinks that are popular yet problematic. One I have always felt kind of uncomfortable about it sissyfication. As a cis woman that owns her femininity and is proud of it I don’t see what’s so humiliating about being a woman. And I did wonder if it was transphobic, and there are trans people who think it is. A trans woman is transitioning her body to match the person she is inside, they are embracing their femininity to see cis men treating being turned into and treated as a woman as a part of humiliation kink could only be seen as hurtful. I don’t want this…

  • Memes

    30 Days of Kink – Day 23

    Since You First Developed An Interest in Kink Have Your Interests/Perspectives Changed? How So? Oh yeah, and quite a lot. I started out as a submissive and after about a year or so started switching and have classed myself as a switch pretty much ever since, with an occasional leaning more one way than the other. With eventually going back to work (postponed until we have survived the apocalypse) I will get to be dominant in my work life while getting to enjoy being submissive with my partner behind closed doors. So I really do get the best of both worlds in my life. I’m a very lucky woman. And…