What Qualities Do You Look For in a Partner?
Really this post should just be a photo of my partner with my pointing to him. Everything he is, I look for. But I don’t have his consent to do that so here’s a list of the things I looked for in the dark days of before him.
Firstly I need monogamy, I’ve talked before about having no interest in multiple partners or open relationships. I’ve spoken about the pressure I’ve had in the past to be non-monogamous and and how emotionally damaging it became. I refuse to go back down that road.
Secondly I need someone kinky, it’s a huge part of my life and I refuse to live without it. BDSM is a part of what I am and I just feel like something is missing in me when I can’t have it in my life.
Thirdly, it’s so important to be open minded, not just sexually but in being supportive of my blogging about sex and BDSM, going back into sex work and with my non-kink hopes and dreams.
When it comes to physical attraction, I really like tall, broad and alternative. Long hair and body mods are damn hot too. I’ve honestly only met a very small handful of people I’ve been genuinely sexually attracted to and they’ve all ticked those boxes.