• Everything Else

    A Dildo Buying Guide

    I love sex toys, I love them so damn much. But learning how to buy a good sex toy has taken time and I’ve certainly made some (costly) mistakes. So today I’m going to give you some tips to help you buy a sex toy you’ll love. Good Sex Toys Aren’t Cheap and Cheap Sex Toys Aren’t Good Cheap toys tend to be made of cheap materials (I do have a vegan whip I brought for under £15 from Sinful Floggers so this rules comes with a couple of exceptions but I’m talking about dildos today) and cheap materials, like the ones jelly dildos are made from are not going…

  • Personal

    My Top 3 Orgasms

    I love orgasms, so today I thought I would talk about the best three orgasms I’ve ever had. My partner was there for two of them. He’s very proud of this. To be fair, I would be too. So here’s a countdown of my best ever orgasms. 3. That time I nearly broke my fingers. Yes I once came so hard I nearly broke my own fingers. I wish I could remember what I was thinking about at the time (I do remember this being a late night, porn free wank, and was just rubbing my clit. When I came I came so hard my body just clamped down on…

  • Review

    Dino Slug Review

    Just a note, I paid for this toy with my own money and have been in no way paid for this review. Now onto the fun bit, John Thomas Toys are a UK based fantasy toy company and I love them. All their toys are made from platinum grade silicone, are Vac-U-Lock compatible and come with a lovely black velvet storage bag. And what I really love is that when you buy from either their Etsy or website they have a drinks can next to the toys for scale so I don’t have to do maths and a hunt for a measuring tape to work out if I’ll fit it…

  • Everything Else

    Supporting on a Budget

    I’ve been struggling with social media lately, algorithms are not friends of sex bloggers, or content creators as a whole. Instagram is determined to bury anything we post, getting Twitter followers has been a very slow, uphill struggle, The blog has been pretty quiet. And yet Porn Hub and all those sites related to it are at the top of those damn searches every time. I’m not here to advise bloggers or content creators on how to beat the evil algorithms which favour big evil companies and hate small, indie people. I don’t think anyone truly knows how to do that. (Although hashtags are the enemy apparently.) But for my…

  • BDSM,  Sex

    Stretching Holes

    I’ve got 14mm flesh tunnels in my ears. Or maybe 16. I do know the last jewellery I brought was too small. So who knows any more. But this isn’t about those holes. I’ve always wanted to be able to take a fist. But I’ve never been able to get past those last knuckles. The reality is that it probably isn’t going to happen as my hips seem to be a bit too narrow. And my partners got big hands. Like, really big. I love them. And I don’t seem to be able to bend in that weird way so many people can to fist themselves. Maybe if I took…

  • Memes

    Wrap Your Legs Around Me

    I love legs, it’s one of my favourite body parts on my partners body. It’s also my favourite part of a few rugby players. Especially when the Welsh number 10 is converting a try or going for a penalty. Sorry, forgot this is a kinky sex blog not a sports blog for a moment there. No matter how crap I’ve felt about my body I’ve always loved my legs. They’re strong, have a squeeze like a boa constrictor and they’ve got some of my favourite tattoos. But outside of how much I like my legs I do find a good pair of legs, particularly the thighs very sexy. And of…

  • rant

    It Just Doesn’t Belong in Erotica

    This is going to discus some uncomfortable things. Including sexual assault so if this is a trigger for you this might be a post you want to miss. For those still here, lets unpack the suitcase of sexual assault and lack of informed consent in erotica. I got my partner a copy of Story of O a while ago, not a book I’ve read in years or particularly liked but I thought since so many love it maybe it was the kinky book for my partner. Until he called me really stressed out about the term rape actually being used. He’s someone that has experienced first hand how rape has…

  • BDSM

    Critical Roll in the Hay

    Sex dice are kind of a good idea, but those ones you can buy are a bit crap really. But if you’re a bit geeky (and so many kinky people are) you probably have dice around to have some fun with. If you have a set or two of gaming dice and want to have a different kind of fun with them, you could even incorporate this into long distance play. Die can have anywhere from 6 to 20 sides and when they only have numbers you can assign only things you enjoy and no more stupid, weird or awkward combinations. I’m a big fan of orgasm control and I…

  • BDSM

    Flogging For Inner Peace

    Some of us really struggle to switch our brains off. I’m certainly one of those people, my attempts at meditation have not been too successful, but there is one thing that actually works for me. A good flogging. This may sound crazy, but it’s BDSM when doesn’t it sound just a little bit crazy? But it’s only when I’ve got my partner behind me and flogging me I can shut out all outside influence and exist purely in the moment. I find that it works better than a trance induction, something designed to switch my brain off, at getting my conscious mind to clock out and my subconscious mind to…

  • Phimosis

    Guest Post Stretching Diary One Month In

    My partner is back again and sharing his stretching diary for his phimosis. Past posts can be found in the phimosis category. And now the disclaimer. If you think you have phimosis please go to your doctor, explain what problems it gives you and how painful it is. If it’s a recent occurrence it may well be a symptom of something more serious. Tell them you wish to be referred to a urologist. Look after yourselves, Bambi. DAY 22- Easy again, feels productive, and I should mention at this point for those reading in the future, that I’m doing these stretches to fill in time during the Coronavirus lock down.…