• BDSM

    November Round Up

    Well, what is there to say about this month? I, like the rest of England have spent it in lockdown with very little to do. But there has still been a few things to enjoy. NaNoWriMo I’ve posted about this a couple of times over the month, it’s taken me away from both the blog and social media. But today is the last day and that means I can come crawling out of my Phantom of the Opera hole that I fell down over a month ago. Who are we kidding I’ll never come out of that Phantom hole, I like it down here. Purple Rockstar – Yeah, I know…

  • Everything Else

    The End of NaNoWriMo

    This post is ever so slightly early because the last post of the month will be my monthly round up so I’m doing this early. It’s been a rough month of writing with it’s ups and downs. But finally the end is in sight and I can more or less be done with talking about my project with anyone who speaks to me for more than 30 seconds. Hopefully. As of writing this I haven’t quite hit my word goal, but I am ahead and should be there by the 29th, I have tried to do this a few times and never made it to 10,000 words. Actually, I don’t…

  • Everything Else

    Christmas Gift Ideas

    I’d usually save this as the first post of December, but given how up the spout the world and therefore the postal service is this year I probably should have done this back in July. But here we are, the end of the year is almost in sight but first, Christmas. Something fun to look forward to! And if you’re feeling a little stumped for a kinky gift idea maybe I can help you out with a little inspiration. Ice Cream Dildo – Gem’s Little Pink Box You must have known this was going to be on the list, I have one myself that I have raved about. If you…

  • Personal

    The Pre Lockdown Days

    I hate this, that so many things feel like a far off distant memory, maybe because that’s what they are now. The last time I did wax play. The last time we fucked in days where lockdown felt more like a threat. If this year has taught me anything it is that you grab things when they are in front of you, and hold onto them with both hands. We did wax play, it was something we knew we wouldn’t be able to do for a while that we would miss. It occurred to both of us that it would be a while until we could do it again, maybe…

  • BDSM

    I Miss Flirting

    I miss flirting. I miss a lot of things but the latest Kink of the Week has reminded me just how much I miss flirting and I didn’t even realise it until I started to think about it. I’ve always been a flirty person with everyone, it was the only way I seemed to know how to behave. But when it was someone I genuinely liked, and I have been physically attracted to very few people in my life I was very different. When I met my partner, who I still maintain is the sexiest person I’ve ever laid eyes on in every damn way, I flirted hard. Well, I…

  • rant

    Erotica and Shameful Genitals

    When you’re writing the advice you get is to read things in that genre, which is what I’ve been doing. And I’m getting frustrated. Not from all the filth I’ve been reading, but from the same cringe inducing description. Dear friends, where ever you are on the spectrum of gender, why in the the name of great buggering fuck are people using the term “her sex” in dirty books? I hate it. I think, correction, I now know, that I hate the term more than pussy and that has a ban in our bedroom. I get the whole “it’s erotic not pornographic leave something to the imagination, that’s actually how…

  • Personal

    I Miss You

    With the apocalypse raging outside I feel like I haven’t touched my partner in forever. And it’s currently going to be at least December until I can. The strange thing is it doesn’t feel like it’s taken a toll on us as a couple. But as people the lack of contact and feeling like we’ve been forced into long distance is hard. But this isn’t like long distance, this is worse. Unlike my partner I’ve done long distance. I’ve done it a couple of times in fact, but the thing is I always knew when I was going to see them next. Even if it wasn’t a certain set in…

  • Personal

    Writing a Dirty Book

    I complained a while ago about erotica having some far too forced scenes and that it made enjoying this genre impossible for both my partner and myself. I complained that someone needed to write a book with informed consent. Something that can be far too lacking which just feels kind of… wrong. So anyway, it’s NaNoWriMo and I’m writing a dirty book. You’ll notice a total lack of kinky fiction on this blog. I used to write flash fiction, something I haven’t done in a very long time. And it was always more pornographic over erotic. It was super short and all about the sex with very little build up…

  • BDSM,  Memes

    Somewhere to Rest My Feet

    This fortnights Kink of the Week is forniphilia, the kink of being used or using someone as a piece of furniture. But how do you translate such a visual kink to the written word? I’ve been thinking about that for a few weeks lately believe it or not. Using someone as a footstall is, for me at least, the first thing that comes to mind. (If it’s something else please tell me in the comments, I love hearing about what gets you all off.) And I have rested my feet on many backs over the years. And I’m currently trying to work out how to write a forniphilia scene for…