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    Build Your Own Path

    There are very few things in BDSM that only have one way of doing them, and that’s down to health and safety. Yet there are people that will say there is only “one true way” and I’ve been practising BDSM for 15 years so I can promise you, that’s bullshit. I was thinking about this a lot recently, something from my private life inspired it so I thought it was time to share it here too. I’ve heard the whole “true sub/dom” thing since I started and it’s always been from people I wish I had never had the misfortune of meeting. When that term has been used it has…

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    Going With the Gut

    Someone once told me “Always follow your first instinct, the second is the Devil trying to lead you astray” and she kind of had a point. While I am an atheist I don’t think it’s the Devil, not going with my first gut instinct has always come back to kick me in the tits. When it comes to BDSM we can’t always trust that someone has a great reputation on the scene, something I have talked about before. Or maybe like me you just prefer to not be a part of the scene. What can you do to stay safe? Trust your instincts. We all know about spotting red flags…

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    30 Days of Kink – Day 22

    What Do You Think Is Important In Keeping A BDSM Relationship Healthy? How Does It Differ From A Vanilla Relationship? I think the most important thing is the same for a vanilla or BDSM based relationship, communication. They both need a lot of open and honest talk from both sides to work long term. I’ve seen plenty of relationships, including some of my own deteriorate because of a lack of communication. If we do not talk openly and honestly about our needs and desires then they cannot be met. These are also things that change over time which is why you need to keep talking. If you cannot talk to…

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    Small Penis Humiliation

    Would you believe the inspiration for this post came from my mum? I’ve been feeling the block really bad of late and asked my mum what to write about. And she said small penises. But after a lot of small dick jokes she asked me to say she didn’t want it to come across as mean. And that is how I ended up spending time telling my mum all about small penis humiliation. This is something I very much specialise in and have done since my early days of domming. I’m a big humiliation fan, but of course it comes with its risks as one sentence wrong can destroy the…

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    Leaving Marks

    I love leaving marks on my partner, he wears them like a badge of honour. They’re a sign of really good sex. Marking me isn’t really a part of our dynamic, and it’s something I’ve been picky about in the past. I wouldn’t say marks are a fetish of mine, but I love the acts that result in them. I don’t talk about my relationship all that often but I have said before that abrasion play is one of our favourite things and it’s obviously one that does leave marks. Albeit temporary. Dragging my nails into my partners skin as I orgasm is always a part of our fucking, it’s…

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    How to Behave at a Munch

    The new year is coming and maybe you’re thinking of getting involved with your local BDSM community as your new years resolution. Today I’m going to give you a few bits of advice before you go to your first ever munch so you have the best possible time you can have. Do your research Get yourself onto FetLife and see what is in your local area, if you’re lucky enough to live in a city there are probably plenty to choose from. If you live in or around London, England there is a website just dedicated to London events. Go check it out here. There are some that are just…

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    Lifestyle Not Fuckstyle

    OK, today I’m going to put my switch hat on again (it’s sparkly in case you’re wondering) and follow up my last post and talk about some realities of lifestyle BDSM. Maybe you’ve just finished reading 50 Shades of Grey (and just this once I will not judge you too harshly) or it’s something you’ve always wanted to do and finally you are ready to take the plunge. I’ve been living the lifestyle for years and here’s the thing, the reality is that they are a lot of hard work. Hell, relationships are a lot of hard work but adding a whole other element on top of it and there’s…

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    D/s Over the Holidays

    The holiday season is well and truly upon us here in the UK, with a big focus on family it can be hard to keep up the rules of a power exchange relationship, but it’s not impossible. So lets look at some ideas to make it work! Physical Cues A touch to the leg, a hand squeeze, a stroke of the finger, all subtle shows of affection that can be transformed into small cues to keep rules in tact without having to utter a word or give anything away. There are countless ways to work around asking and giving permission, just work out the ones that are best for your…

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    BDSM and Planners

    Could a planner help with your D/s relationship? I absolutely think so. That might seem like a strange claim but when you have a lot to remember it’s the easiest way I’ve found to keep on top of everything. My whole Domme life fits into a cute little six ring Filofax binder, as well as everything for the blog and future videos I want to create. But they can also be great for your sub or slave, Organisation Ideas For chastity if you are a key holder or locked away it is great to have a tracker of how long it has been and maybe even the date of release.…

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    Exhibitionism

    I’m a total exhibitionist, not really surprising given my blog, Twitter and being an ex fetish model. I love being the centre of attention and putting on a good show when I can. From my history in couples rooms or using kit at a fetish club, I just like to make a scene and make it worth watching. But why? It’s just such a part of me I don’t even really see it as a fetish or a kink at this point, it’s just a part of who I am. I love the attention and making people happy. Sometimes it gets me off and other times I just get a…