• Personal

    The Collar I Wore Once

    Yes this was supposed to be an Organotoy review but I’ve been ill and unable to wank or even think about wanking since Thursday evening so I haven’t had a chance to use them yet. As soon as I’m well again I’ll be getting the first review up. But for now I’m going to do something I usually wouldn’t, talk about something from a previous relationship. Recently I was looking through Etsy and saw a collar, it was the one my ex brought me. It was black leather with circular cut outs with dark red satin in them. It was lovely. But something I would never have picked for myself…

  • BDSM

    Lifestyle Not Fuckstyle

    OK, today I’m going to put my switch hat on again (it’s sparkly in case you’re wondering) and follow up my last post and talk about some realities of lifestyle BDSM. Maybe you’ve just finished reading 50 Shades of Grey (and just this once I will not judge you too harshly) or it’s something you’ve always wanted to do and finally you are ready to take the plunge. I’ve been living the lifestyle for years and here’s the thing, the reality is that they are a lot of hard work. Hell, relationships are a lot of hard work but adding a whole other element on top of it and there’s…

  • BDSM

    Giving and Taking Control

    I have an interesting relationship with control, I crave both giving and taking it, and once I dominate someone I can never go back to submitting to them again. Here’s how I make it all work in my life. As you’ll know if you’ve visited the blog before, I am going back to work in February, and one of the things I will be doing is online domination. It’s here that I get to enjoy my taking of control. I love how powerful it makes me feel. Becoming dominant and taking charge has changed my life, in finding my Mistress side I found my voice again after years of abuse.…

  • BDSM

    D/s Over the Holidays

    The holiday season is well and truly upon us here in the UK, with a big focus on family it can be hard to keep up the rules of a power exchange relationship, but it’s not impossible. So lets look at some ideas to make it work! Physical Cues A touch to the leg, a hand squeeze, a stroke of the finger, all subtle shows of affection that can be transformed into small cues to keep rules in tact without having to utter a word or give anything away. There are countless ways to work around asking and giving permission, just work out the ones that are best for your…

  • BDSM

    BDSM and Planners

    Could a planner help with your D/s relationship? I absolutely think so. That might seem like a strange claim but when you have a lot to remember it’s the easiest way I’ve found to keep on top of everything. My whole Domme life fits into a cute little six ring Filofax binder, as well as everything for the blog and future videos I want to create. But they can also be great for your sub or slave, Organisation Ideas For chastity if you are a key holder or locked away it is great to have a tracker of how long it has been and maybe even the date of release.…