Someone once told me “Always follow your first instinct, the second is the Devil trying to lead you astray” and she kind of had a point. While I am an atheist I don’t think it’s the Devil, not going with my first gut instinct has always come back to kick me in the tits. When it comes to BDSM we can’t always trust that someone has a great reputation on the scene, something I have talked about before. Or maybe like me you just prefer to not be a part of the scene. What can you do to stay safe? Trust your instincts. We all know about spotting red flags…