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    Lifestyle Not Fuckstyle

    OK, today I’m going to put my switch hat on again (it’s sparkly in case you’re wondering) and follow up my last post and talk about some realities of lifestyle BDSM. Maybe you’ve just finished reading 50 Shades of Grey (and just this once I will not judge you too harshly) or it’s something you’ve always wanted to do and finally you are ready to take the plunge. I’ve been living the lifestyle for years and here’s the thing, the reality is that they are a lot of hard work. Hell, relationships are a lot of hard work but adding a whole other element on top of it and there’s…

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    D/s Over the Holidays

    The holiday season is well and truly upon us here in the UK, with a big focus on family it can be hard to keep up the rules of a power exchange relationship, but it’s not impossible. So lets look at some ideas to make it work! Physical Cues A touch to the leg, a hand squeeze, a stroke of the finger, all subtle shows of affection that can be transformed into small cues to keep rules in tact without having to utter a word or give anything away. There are countless ways to work around asking and giving permission, just work out the ones that are best for your…

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    Male Chastity

    I’ve been a fan of chastity for about 12 years now and was first introduced to it by my first sub. And I absolutely loved being a key holder straight away. For those who are new to this particular kink you may well be wondering what you can get out of your partner, or even yourself being locked up and unable to either masturbate or have sex. So what can you get out of being on either side of that padlock? That’s what I’ll be talking about today, as well as my recommendation of cage. As a key holder it is a wonderful way to exert your control and rules…